Growth Myths
I’ve been spending an unhealthy amount of time thinking about “Growth Myths” the last 2 months. My coaching group is based in Maxwell Leadership principles and this one has really stuck with me. I’ve always been drawn towards “self-improvement”, likely as a result of a hyper-independent trauma response. I am truly convinced that there’s always more to learn, a better way to communicate, a healthier way to process emotions, a more efficient way to accomplish my goals. This has served me well, and has also created some excuses that I lean on to avoid hard things.
During our coaching call I was asked to think of something that I’ve always wanted to do (coach others, write a book, host a retreat) and then ask, why haven’t you? Every time you go to do this, you eventually don’t do it. So … why?
Why indeed.
Maxwell’s 8 Growth Myths
When we went over the 8 growth myths I was astonished and unsurprised to see my myths laid out so clearly. Since I’m a “self help” person, I like having something to point to and say YES. THAT’S THE REASON. Mostly because that gives me a way to start “fixing” it.
You can’t go anywhere with a broken car.
The growth myths that have been stuck on my heart are #5 and #7.
“I have to find the best way before I start”
“Others are better than I am”
Honestly? I don’t know how to get over these myths.
The idea that I must know the “correct” way to do something and that even if I did, someone out there is doing it better so it’s not worth the effort, is a deeply held belief. It shapes all my decisions and has influenced most of my failures.
What am I doing about it?
“doing the work”
Researching. Journaling. Asking my spirit guides for help. Then actually getting that help. Reaching out. Talking to those people who “are better than I am”.
One thing I’ve learned is that people love to talk about what they’re good at. So, I’m asking them to talk. Share their stories and just listen and not judge.
I brought it to my therapist to help dig into some of my root trauma around “not being good enough”.
I’m also working with an NLP / MER coach to work through the limiting emotions and beliefs that are keeping me in these myths.
I have to remind myself, and you, that:
This is what progress looks like.
This is what motivation looks like.
This is what “doing the work” looks like.
Progress looks like naming your goal, facing your challenges head on, admitting when you need help, and then finding and accepting that help. I would much rather find a work-around and just do it by myself, but if I could do that, I would have already. I start work with my coach next week, and I’m looking forward to what’s next!
Maxwell Leadership 8 Growth Myths – Debunked: https://www.maxwellleadership.com/blog/8-growth-myths-debunked/
Don’t Touch My Mindset - Jay Chase - Leadership Development | EQ Coach: https://www.instagram.com/thejaychase
Alexus Rae | Master Practitioner NLP, MER ®, Hypnosis: https://www.instagram.com/alexus__rae__/
